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Continuing to follow the case of the brutal attack in Kaštel Štafilić, on August 31, 2020, Večernji list brings in an article entitled “The father of the attacker from Kaštel came to apologize” and statements by Split psychologist Mirjana Nazor and psychologist of the Zagreb Child and Youth Protection Center, Ella Selak Bagarić:
“That the violence, but also the video of the violence that was published on social networks, is a reflection of the image that as a society we have been tolerating violence for years,” said Mirjana Nazor, a psychologist from Split.
– It is not a question of how to react now, but how we have reacted so far. As a society, we have been tolerating violence for years, in almost all segments. Sanctions for perpetrators, regardless of the type of violence, are minimal or non-existent, and it seems to me that perpetrators believe that they can only fulfill their goals with violence, without knowing that they will not suffer great consequences – said Nazor.
As she epmhasized, the Kaštela case is only one in a sea of cases of violence that we have encountered and unfortunately one of the cases that supports the thesis, she said, that violence is a common occurrence.
– Well, in Split schools, fights were even arranged, violent actions recorded by students. Vulgarly speaking, it is a new way of entertainment for some young people – she reminded and emphasized that we should not wait for a violent event because it is a matter of time, but that there are experts who need to react in advance.
– Repression must exist, but if we do not act preventively, we have not solved anything – said Nazor.
She considers the key to be clear and equal treatment of all perpetrators, regardless of age, because treating their violence as normal or minimally punishing violence does not lead to a solution.
Ella Selak Bagarić, a psychologist from Zagreb Child and Youth Protection Center, believes that children today grow up in a society that tolerates violence, and we only react when blood flows.
– Some cases end up in the media, and violence among children happens every day – on the street, in schools, on social networks… The key role is prevention and early intervention, and although the public is shaken when it escalates, calling for revenge will not help the victim nor to the perpetrator. Instead, we should take our own responsibility and, when violence occurs in our environment, report it, not turn our heads, so that both the victim and the perpetrator can get professional help. In Croatia, there is an extremely small number of reports to the system about violence, especially from experts working in schools, kindergartens… Well, if we call violence child’s play today and do not work on prevention, tomorrow we wonder where we get so many violent children. Without going into a specific case, from clinical experience I can say that in violent children, all the failures of adults from their environment come to the fore, that is, everything that we as a society failed to give on time. It is quite certain that the perpetrator has shown some other forms of problematic behavior before – said psychologist Ella Selak Bagarić. “
Source: Večernji list https://www.vecernji.hr/vijesti/novi-detalji-o-nasilju-u-kastelima-uzrok-svega-je-dug-za-marihuanu-otac-pretucenog-otvorio-dusu-1427911
Disclaimer: This is unofficial translation provided for information purposes. Zagreb Child and Youth Protection Center cannot be held legally responsible for any translation inaccuracy.