Daily newspaper 24sata organized a round table on high-conflict divorces and equal parenting:
“Out of the 3321 child whose parents divorced last year, 2,867 of them were given to their mother, 325 to fathers, while other children were partitioned between both parents, could be heard at the round table “Equal parenting”.
Round table on Monday organized a daily newspaper 24sata, and participants were experts in this field.
– Although in Croatia almost 80 percent of divorce proceedings to an end by mutual agreement, about 20 percent is high conflict divorce – said Judge Marina Parać Garma from the Municipal Civil Court in Zagreb. She explained that until 25 years ago, the court always work with mother preference, but times have changed.
– Judicial decisions must follow a life, so today many more fathers are involved in child care. So I’m an adversary of the pattern decisions and I think that every case should be approached individually – she added. Psychologist Bojan Klapcic represented the Association of Equal Parenting. He said that his experience in conflict divorces there is most often has a background in psychological disorder or even mental illness in one or both parents and urged institutions to react quickly.
“The system is overcrowded and instead of reducing the conflict at first, sometimes pouring oil into the fire. Early intervention is needed – Klapcic said. The participants also said that a major problem was durability procedures and that should work on their acceleration. The most common problem is the non-cooperation of individual parents. Child psychologist Gordana Buljan Flander from the Child and Youth Protection Center of Zagreb emphasized that any divorce leaves lasting consequences on a child .
– For example, the child takes the side of one parent and learn to say what it is expected to hear. Discarded parents often called personal name instead of mom or dad, later that parent becomes a “he” or “she” that would eventually completely depersonalizirao as parents. This leads to serious psychiatric disorders – Buljan Flander said. In order to protect a child in such procedures, it is first and foremost to follow the guidelines of the best interest of the child.
– They are prescribed by the Convention on the Rights of the Child. The interest of the child is assessed individually. A child has the right to information about what is happening around him and has the right to participate in such proceedings by expressing his / her own opinion. Finally, that child should be provided with a sense of security and protection in these proceedings – said the children’s ombudsman Helena Pirnat Dragičević. Gordana Buljan Flander emphasized that it is the best interest of the child to have both parents, so it is best for the child to be with the parent who will enable it. Attorney Nataša Pećarević said that the fact that the best interest of the child is primarily the concern of parents and that the system in that care has only a supporting role is out of focus.