FREE MANUAL: Look at the world from my shoes – Why is temperament important?

“Look at the world from my shoes: Why is temperament important?” the new manual published by the Zagreb Child and Youth Protection Center and the City of Zagreb. It was written by social pedagogue Dora Kralj, clinical psychologist Vlatka Križan and social worker Nikolina Škrlec, with the intention of helping parents and children, to help parents to recognize and nurture their child’s specialty so that they can “instantly fit in children’s shoes” to feel children’s temperament, children’s emotions, restlessness, tempo and energy. The manual deals specifically with very sensitive, withdrawn, and active/distractible children, and is published as part of psycho-educational support for parents during corona crises, because children in these shoes are more prone to more intense reactions to stress and trauma.


You can download the manual in PDF here (on Croatian language): POGLEDAJTE SVIJET IZ MOJIH CIPELA: Zašto je temperament važan?

It is allowed to download, use and download the manual with the obligatory citation of the source: Zagreb Child and Youth Protection Center and author: social pedagogue Dora Kralj, clinical psychologist Vlatka Križan and social worker Nikolina Škrlec


“There is no person preparing for parenting without thinking and imagining about their child … What when the picture of the child with his birth changes, when the child shows some emotions and behaviors that parents cannot cope with, they do not understand them and are there feelings of helplessness, powerlessness and guilt in them?

In this handbook, we want to show from the temperament the specificity and diversity of some children whose parents are more likely to contact us in clinical practice for advice, support in upbringing and further guidance in their relationship. These are very sensitive, withdrawn and motor active / distractible children.

We wanted to stimulate some new thinking in the minds of readers (parents and experts) and to offer some new possibilities and choices in dealing with them, and we thought that the best way to put them in the shoes of children for a moment was to feel their temperament. their feelings, their restlessness, their pace and their energy.

It is also important to note that these children are otherwise at risk for inappropriate adult practices. This risk increases during stressful periods as children tend to intensify their reactions when exposed to stressful and traumatic experiences. If, as in this period, the stressor is exposed to the whole family, the risk is further increased.


Our goal is to help parents understand their parents’ fears in everyday (and stressful) situations, which sometimes are full of guilt and feel helpless without seeing a way out of the situation, and on the other hand help children in a way that parents recognize and nurture the specialty of their the child “from his (child’s) shoes”, to accept her and to look at their processes, strengths and resources in parallel, so that they can be more satisfied in their role.

If we helped you see the world with their eyes, we think you can be proud and happy about it because it means that a child who will have the opportunity to meet you or know you already and share some moments with you no matter what role you are in, will be happier day, repeatedly to be laughed at, proud of one’s own personality and reaction and ultimately to be more satisfied with oneself. ”



  • Introduction
  • Temperament: definition of temperament, characteristics of temperament
  • So are we the same or different after all?
  • Very sensitive child
  • Withdrawn child
  • Active / Distractible Child
  • What do they expect of me, and what can I do?
  • Influence of the parent on the positive socio-emotional development of the child with acceptance of his temperament
  • Why adults…
  • Instead – say
  • Bottom line: Children “in these shoes” are more prone to more intense reactions to stress and trauma
  • A letter from a very sensitive child to adults
  • A letter from a withdrawn child to adults
  • Letter from an active / distractible child to adults
  • Instead of a conclusion
  • Literature

    Disclaimer: This is unofficial translation provided for information purposes. Zagreb Child and Youth Protection Center cannot be held legally responsible for any translation inaccuracy.   

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